email from my daughter

Any one of these is usually a sign of hidden or un-expressed anger:

  1. PROCRASTINATION IN THE COMPLETION OF IMPOSED TASKS
  2. PERPETUAL OR HABITUAL LATENESS
  3. A LIKING FOR SADISTIC OR IRONIC HUMOUR
  4. SARCASM CYNICISM OR FLIPPANCY IN CONVERSATION
  5. OVER-POLITENESS OR CHEERFULNESS, ATTITUDE OF “GRIN AND BEAR IT”
  6. FREQUENT SIGHING
  7. SMILING WHILE HURTING
  8. FREQUENT DISTURBING OR FRIGHTENING DREAMS
  9. OVER-CONTROLLED MONOTONE SPEAKING VOICE

10. DIFFICULTY IN GETTING TO SLEEP OR SLEEPING THROUGH THE NIGHT

11. BOREDOM, APATHY, LOSS OF INTEREST IN THINGS YOU ARE USUALLY ENTHUSIASTIC ABOUT

12. SLOWING DOWN OF MOVEMENT

13. GETTING TIRED MORE EASILY THAN USUAL

14. EXCESSIVE IRRITABILITY OVER TRIFLES

15. GETTING DROWSY AT INAPPROPRIATE TIMES

16. SLEEPING MORE THAN USUAL-MAYBE 12-14 HOURS A DAY

17. WAKING UP TIRED RATHER THAN RESTED AND REFRESHED

18. CLENCHED JAWS- ESPECIALLY WHILE SLEEPING

19. FACIAL TICS, SPASMODIC FOOT MOVEMENTS, HABITUAL FIST CLENCHING AND SIMILAR

20. GRINDING OF TEETH – ESPECIALLY WHILE SLEEPING

21. CHRONICALLY STIFF OR SORE NECK

22. CHRONIC DEPRESSION – EXTENDED PERIODS OF FEELING DOWN FOR NO REASON

23. STOMACH ULCERS

SAFE ANGER RELEASING TECHNIQUES (with my thoughts)

  1. PUNCH PILLOWS
  2. LIE FLAT FACE DOWN ON THE BED, SCREAM INTO THE PILLOW AND BEAT THE
  3. MATTRESS WITH YOUR FISTS.
  4. STAMP AROUND THE ROOM PUNCHING AIR WITH YOUR FISTS AND SAY, “I’M ANGRY”

OVER AND OVER. I’m going to sound like Rain Man!

  1. WRITE A LIST OF “I’M ANGRY BECAUSE…” STATEMENTS.
  2. BEAT THE BED WITH A RACQUET OR BAT. Does it have to be the bed? Wouldn’t a husband be just as well?
  3. BUY CROCKERY FROM CHARITY SHOPS AND SMASH IT IN A SAFE PLACE (BEWARE OF
  4. LYING PIECES).
  5. TURN UP THE MUSIC REALLY LOUDLY (INDOOR, IN CAR…) AND SCREAM OR SHOUT.
  6. IF YOU CAN GET TO A DESERTED BEACH OR MOUNTAIN, YOU CAN SCREAM YOUR HEART OUT. If I could get to a desired beach or mountain I wouldn’t be so angry now would I!
  7. HARD PHYSICAL EXERCISE EG. RUNNING, SQUASH. DO AEROBICS, VISUALISING
  8. PUNCHING AND KICKING THE ABUSER.
  9. GET AGGRESSIVE WITH THE VACUUM CLEANER.
  10. SLAM DOORS AND POUND UP THE STAIRS NOISILY
  11. FOR THOSE WHO SWEAR THINK OF THE MOST OBSCENE WORDS YOU CAN, TO INSULT WHOEVER MADE YOU ANGRY. (Not to their face) Damn!
  12. WRITE A LETTER TO YOUR ABUSER – TRY BEGINNING WITH “I HATE YOU”.
  13. SPEAK OUT IN ANGER TO THOSE AROUND YOU.
  14. CREATE AN ANGER RITUAL EG. BURNING AN EFFIGY OF THE ABUSER. Isn’t this considered VooDoo around here?
  15. DANCE AN ANGER DANCE.
  16. TAKE A COURSE IN MARTIAL ARTS.
  17. IT IS OFTEN EASIER TO GET ANGRY FOR SOMEONE ELSE THAN FOR YOURSELF. IMAGINE A CHILD YOU LOVE BEING TREATED THE WAY YOU WERE.
  18. DIRECT YOUR ANGER ONTO THE CAUSE – THE ABUSER – AND AWAY FROM YOURSELF.

ULTIMATELY ANGER IS A POWERFUL FORCE THAT CAN HEAL.

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